You should be able to have fun dating & getting know new people in your life.
Feel safe and comfortable expressing your true self.
Find confidence & love for yourself to be able to take the leap into something new.
Once again find that power, and identity within a relationship.
I’ve been blessed with a warm and open disposition – it’s easy for me to find rapport, offer kindness, and genuinely like the people I meet. People feel good around me. This therapeutic relationship sets a baseline for what you can expect (and should demand) from a romantic relationship.
The setting, and the work will create for you a “lived experience” of feeling accepted, comfortable, and safe in the presence of a stranger. As the conversation moves to deeper issues – like your fears, life challenges, and insecurities – you will continue to feel affirmed. It will set up a new pattern of confidence and feeling validated. You will see your true self, reflected in the people you meet… people who like you because of who you are!
The strong intention with this work is to create an island of safety and gradually extend it out into your world. The best way is to show deep kindness and patience with yourself, and communicate your feelings as they arise so I can help you find a place of deep safety in-session.
Beforehand, try noticing any small thing that helps you feel lighter, or brings comfort. I don’t recommend challenging yourself, trying to figure things out, or pushing to achieve something. Give yourself a wee holiday beforehand and the session work will flow more easily.