“Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness” - Peter Levine
Unresolved trauma can intrude in our everyday lives through:
- Intrusive memories, nightmares, and flashbacks
- Triggers and emotional distress with exposure to traumatic reminders
- Avoidance of triggering situations
This can result in:
- Negative thoughts and assumptions about oneself or the world
- Exaggerated blame of self or others for causing the trauma
- Feeling isolated and inability to engage in life fully
Your body's response to past events is normal and appropriate - it has likely kept you safe and functional in the past.
As you develop awareness and recognise past patterns of response, you can choose new actions to help you thrive in your current life.
"First comes awareness, then comes choice"
Your First Session
These sessions are all about creating safety, based on the principles of "trauma-informed care". I recognise safety at 3 levels:
- That nothing bad is going to happen to you (literal safety),
- That you feel safe (cognitive / psychological safety), and most importantly
- That your body feels safe (physiological safety). This "visceral sense" or "felt sense" of safety is transformative.
First we talk. I will listen to you and start to understand your emotional realities. We will develop a shared understanding of why you are here and how we can maintain a safe and comfortable space for you. We explore ways of communicating so you have a strong sense of ownership and agency throughout the process. I like to continue until we feel very much "in sync".
Everything else springs from what we have learned about your needs. It's likely you will sit or lie down for a relaxation exercise and guided meditation, exploring safe and pleasant sensations in your body, maybe including minimal reassuring touch. The meditation guides you towards a warm appreciation of your own body, unconditional self-love, and permission for you and your body to express themselves any way they choose.
Beyond this point we follow the natural unfolding of the process. This is where the magic happens, and it's different every time. The process helps you to join the dots between your personal challenges, the conversation, sensations in the body, old memories, and emotions. You can understand why you feel what you feel.
Near the end of the session, I will remind you of the insights you gained through the process, and affirm the qualities I recognise in you. I find that people are able to receive these affirmations deeply, because of their relaxed state and sense of safety.
Deep respect to you for considering this journey to a more vibrant life.
“ Every human being deserves to feel safe, free to express themselves, sovereign in their own body, and able to make confident choices in life”
This is my foundation, the four pillars of my practice. I penned the words the day I chose this path as a healer, and I have never understood why anyone would not honour these basic human rights. It saddens me that in schools, workplaces - even in families and intimate relationships - people do not have this sanctuary.
For as long as I can remember, I have wished for a safer world for all. I struggled in earlier years to be accepted because wouldn't play the macho role expected of me. But I learned to be my own person.
Establishing this practice has been my way to align my values, my interests, my heart, and my gut, to live the way I choose. I have never felt so good in my own skin. This is who I am, this is what I do, this is my life.